Monday, December 31, 2012

For the NEW YEAR: 6 Things you should forgive yourself for

1. Forgive yourself for not accepting yourself completely

You and I both know that there are many people out there who aren’t really happy with who they are and what they are, who always criticize themselves and always compare themselves with others. We will never be happy if we continue living our lives this way, and before we can even consider changing the way we think and the way we perceive ourselves, we need to learn how to forgive ourselves for all the time we spent ignoring our own beauty and our own greatness.

2. Forgive yourself for constantly seeking approval in all the wrong places

It’s never too late to start seeking for approval in the right place, it’s never too late to start getting approval from the right person, which is YOU! All the approval you will ever need is your own approval and not the approval of those around you. For so many years you have lived your life believing that if THEY like you and if they praise you, you are worthy and if they don’t, well, if they don’t there must be something wrong with you, and maybe you should try even harder to get their attention and validation.
You spent so much time and energy trying to be something you were not, trying to fit in and trying to be like everybody else, you thought that it was the right thing to do but now that you know better, it’s time to forgive yourself.
“Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig.” Marcus Aurelius

3. Forgive yourself for thinking you are not good enough

Thoughts have creative power. Your beliefs were created based on your thoughts; acting on your beliefs you eventually created you own reality. The life you are now living is the result of all of those thoughts and all the choices you made so far based on your beliefs. Realize this truth, accept it and forgive yourself for those many times when you didn’t consider yourself good enough.
“Compassion, forgiveness, these are the real, ultimate sources of power for peace and success in life.” Tenzin Gyatso, The 14th Dalai Lama

4. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes

The past is long gone, you can’t change it, you can’t change what once happened to you. Only by understanding this truth you will be able to release yourself from the prison you’ve locked yourself in. There are no mistakes, there are lessons that life taught you and it’s better to see them as lessons than mistakes in order to be happy with your present life. Forgive yourself for your so called past mistakes, let go in order to be happy, let go and move on.
“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means of correcting our misperceptions.” Gerald Jampolsky

5. Forgive yourself for all the judgments you’ve placed on yourself and others

I really love how Mother Teresa of Calcutta spoke about this: “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Forgive yourself for all the judgments you’ve placed on yourself and others and shift your focus and attention from blame, criticism and direct it towards love and forgiveness, for others and yourself.

6. Forgive yourself for giving up on your hopes, dreams and goals

Decide that it is time to forgive yourself for giving up on your big, bold and beautiful dreams because you see, the irony is that by doing so you will actually allow yourself to start all new and to no longer look for faults in yourself and your past. This will allow you to be fired up with how your future will look like and to actually reclaim your dreams and work on making them become reality.
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

Sunday, December 30, 2012

15 Things You Should Give up to be Happy

The new year is just around the corner. I truly believe that despite all the mistakes you made in the past years, a NEW year is always a blessing and God's promise that He has forgiven you.

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right
 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame
 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining
 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change
 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels
 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Monday, December 24, 2012

A Blessed Christmas from my family to yours!

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Girl of the Moment

Chic Jacket, Four Ways

Friday, December 21, 2012

Things We Covet

Monday, December 17, 2012

Dynamite Color-block Diva

Our very own in-house model, Naomi and her take on the Color-block Dress from Dynamite!

Style 67-8370

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Sunday, December 9, 2012

Sunday Cravings

All from Dynamite

Leather Jacket, Creamy Infinity Scarf and Cheetah print Jeggings.

Chanel Le Vernis Nail Polish in Malice and Chanel Coco Rouge in Rivoli.

Saturday, December 8, 2012

Independent Woman